about marriage part 1 [personal thought]

Okay I wanna talk about this. MARRIAGE.

yes another step level about love.

Lately I was so busy to talking mostly mock about my niece wedding (forgive me Jesus!) not only me but my whole family too.

Its because her wedding too much something unimportants do need like the ceremonial etc but her forget about important things to do like arrange about church and anything.

So poor with her.

so in this post I wanna talk it along about this as my thought.

I really wants so bad to be marry someday! REALLY BAD but I don’t want marry if I didn’t ready for anything.

For anything means :

1. Love each other

2. Financial

3. etc

the two top things at above was so important to me. Hey remember you will marry somebody who you will see everyday even you need space to be alone and you will agree to discuss anything with someone you marry. Its the biggest decision in life to marry someone, so I wish we can take the decision with wisely.

I don’t want to push it, If we both still enjoy being together and still feel to want know each other before marriage, you both should delayed it, and If you both feel your financial not ready much so delayed it.

But the both of us should have time agreements! For me 3 until 5 years.

Its so long? No

but you will so much happy when you marry your best friends rather than you marry someone who you know by one night stand or you might be settle you up from your family.

and if you feel ready for two top list above, and you think this is the time to take next time level please put this sentence to your minds first!

The life after wedding is more important than your BIGGEST party you had on your wedding

I had read on WSJ at Saturday, that research said 60% couple divorce from people who had biggest party at wedding,and the rest just couple who had wedding like usual not bigger but not small too.

I don’t said the wedding ceremonial its not important. It is important, for me the important is 2 things

first about wedding licence at church(religion),second about wedding licences at law (country).

That’s enough the other part of wedding is just the way we feel to express our gratitude to every people who support us.

Remember to people who support us

Don’t make our wedding as well known by SUPERSTAR WEDDING to another wedding or make our wedding like race to anyone who haven’t commitment yet or anyone which can get superstar wedding like yours.

For me, legendary wedding or superstar wedding  cant depends by you will make legendary marriage.

some people said about our age problem, how I and my partner delayed this, how to pregnant etc.

I just said, hey this is my life, I’m so proud about it. I’m better waiting than too fast to take and I cant ready enough, its not fair to our kids later. Remember to give the best for family.

I believe heaven or miracle not count or judging by we are marry or not.

How about sins? too long not marriage make you sins.

haha thats stupid theory I think . I will said, so when we marriage we dont have sins?

so cheat is legal on marriage and not sins? the only thing is legal is you can open your “cookie” (for woman) to man who loves you.

But sorry who am I, so I can judge you are sins by you are still couple or you are marriage. So for woman out there who prepare your marriage.

Let us make ourselves ready about two top things above, to sum up,

Make sure you will marry someone who you love so much and so him are and the one who makes you the best,the happiest woman in the world even on bad condition.

Second FINANCIAL, its so shame when you still cant paid the bills for make up, or when your wedding you cant take over the important things such us licenses,catering,transportation,souvenir,accommodation,bands.

Its different case when your both parents give that as present.

so, I wish you choose and prepare wisely.

Love

-Ana-

 

 

 

 

 

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Day 21 : Education #misi30

For me Education is important but is not  make you more wisely.

school was important to make you have skills, a good job and another joy (much money etc) but It can’t make you more wisely. Why?

You can call me pathetic but I have been meet some of my friends and also some of my family member who make their HIGH education to change them to be like arrogant,over bearing – what ever you meant it, its just makes they too much proud.

I’m not said that I’m not proud about my background education, but I’m proud about it and just enough. I admit I’m just graduated from vocational high school,which we are arrange to work not for college which if we realize most of all doing college just to find and get jobs right? but ask person who going to vocational high school, they only prepare for 3 years into it.

I’m not gonna say the people who take vocational high school will be get senior position level on job, but they have experience than anyone who never work before.

Because life at school and life at work its REALLY DIFFERENT THINGS!

anyway, back to the topic.

When you get some or high education its can be boomerang for you to take control your self especially who learn on famous college too.

Boomerang means you will act like idiot people who really talk to much about how you proud about their educational,their campus and bla bla and you lose your control and you will judging bad for anyone who not have standard education like yours (famous college,master graduate,post graduate,cum laude or anything)

I always assume this people are idiot.

That’s why I assume how high education you get cant make you are more wisely.

But I met some a few people who still humble and kind and please notice -proud-but-not-so-much-just-enough about their high education. They think their education just clothes to make them can give more to the other, not just to judge everyone who have same education like they are.

I’m not going to tell what my plans about my education, you will boring to hear it,

but I wanna talk to you this :

No matter how high your education it is, no matter what major you take, no matter what your cum laude you get on college or not, no matter famous collage you take etc, still remember education just a tool to make you can give anything you had on there to the others.

I’m sure you will not remembering by (when you die) “look she was from MIT” or “look he is professor at Harvard” but you will remember by the action you give when you life like example :

“she was spent her time on the weekend to teach computer for old people at nursing home”

yeah its hurt sometimes, you will not remembering by your famous college you take,by high education you take.

But c’mon when you can give or share your skill to anyone, they will respect you as much as you want – without you tell them “I’m from blabla university,I take master blabla…”

so this is a little view about education, I hope you will inspire and feel free to discuss this at the column comment on under this post.

So have a nice Monday!

 

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