The Day After We Break Up

Nobody said that the feeling after breaking up its always easy, even you are young adult/adult or even you both decide to give up your relationship because you know this is not going to work, or because it’s the best for all.

You can probably going searching through website, how to fix this feeling, or crying out loud or doing something that can satisfy you for a moment.

That’s not wrong, everyone have right to feeling grieving after breaking up but don’t be so over and changed you to be pity/miserable person or you started to act like this all was your fault/their fault.

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Praying for your Future Spouse

Hello semuanya,

setelah lama vakum tulis menulis, ga tau kenapa disaat ngantuk melanda di hari sabtu minggu pertama bulan september ini (dan saya masuk kantor) saya ingin sharing sedikit mengenai tema tulisan saya hari ini.

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alkisah ada teman saya yang frustasi menjadi single. Dia sudah melakukan segala cara untuk mendapatkan pasangan hidup (kalo pacar kesannya unyu-unyu ya :p) dan teman saya ini sudah tidak ABG lagi.

jangan tanya perihal doa/ibadah wah udah berpuluh bahkan ton-ton doa dia panjatkan supaya mendapatkan pasangan hidup sampai-sampai dia frustasi dan jadi pity single person.

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Happy 26th Wedding Anniversary to My Parents!

Dear Mom & Dad,

First of all, I wanna say thank you for always love me by taking care of me. I’m really grateful everyday especially today on your special day.

I always have anxiety about the future will become, because so many dark times attack on many family, but you teach and show that true love still exist.

I know the road until 26th years it doesn’t easy, so many problems you had faced (and still till right now) but you both still stand each other.

mom & dad

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Be Holy

Everyone wants to go on HEAVEN and I’m not sure if one of you want to go hell (heck no)

And the next question is,what should we do before so we can get tickets to heaven?

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BE HAPPY!

Today I was talking with my facebook friends, He told me that he was so depressed about his singleness.

So like usually I encourage him, but I think what I said doesn’t help him much #oh Lord!

To be honest, Today I feel same like him, No -just a bit , but not depresed :p

I feel like dumping by someone, or you can say like the new Taylor Swift song , Blank Space.

Oh God, but it doesn’t take longer because I know how to deal that situation,

Do you want to know single ladies? or gentleman how I can deal with that?

PRAY ROSARY 

That’s my weapon, because sometimes I think Satan doesn’t want us to be happy, Satan have so many many many many many ways to make us sorrow, and We have free will to enjoy sorrow situation or find the joy about that (TAKE THAT SATAN!)

Be happy as single, look I’m still single too but I try to be happy single but  NOT LIKE FAKE HAPPY SINGLE!

Not Fake Happy Single is like someone who always crying, depressed so much about their condition until they didn’t recognized His blessing to us every time and usually they always think happiness depends by Human and have relationship with someone.

Oh man – Oh girl, wake up 2015 will coming and you still being like that?

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I was read this quote :

When you never happy as single life, so you will never happy as you with someone!

I know right now when you read this, you will shake your head and you will ask, but How I’m being happy as single when everybody have someone, when people threat me differently as single (usually bad threat like something wrong with you) or when nobody loves me?

Aha! You ask me?

First thing first :

Look upon the Cross – See the greater love on there! See He loves you soooooo much more than you love Him (yeaa I know) and I really hate hear people said nobody loves me, I will rolling my eyes , no just jokes I will said look upon the Cross, see He loves you, if He not loves you, He will not choose die hang on there, but He loves you and He always beside you.

Second :

When everybody have everybody -> believe His plan, Trust God plans for you. He is more than director or writers TFIOS/If I stay/About Time/The Notebook (you can say every romance movie you like), He is the great love writers, and He still writing your loves story. You don’t want your love story being like such as boring movie right?

Third :

Shake it Off – yeaah looks like I’m swifties, but yeah I’m swifties – so what? :p

Shake it Off I mean shake it your life, whatever happen just shake it and don’t forget to invite God shake it Off with you. He is great dancer too, dont forget about that!

Last but not least! and moreeee important than above things!

Be Holy as Single

Attend Daily Mass  – check that

Go to Confession – Check that

Praying Rosary even 5th times a day – check that

Praying St. Anne Novena (or another novenas) – check that

Go to Adoration Eucharist – check that

Attend Youth Ministry for praise and worship – check that

Visit grandma or grand father or people on prison – check that!

When you have deep relationship on Him, you will  wondering about your self because He will show you and change you how to be the real man or woman, He will give you what you looking for a whole time, He will pass that bad things together with you but You should trust on Him.

Never ever think God was not funny person, HE IS FUNNY and HE IS FUN! Follow His way is not easy but its fun, sometimes we just need shake it off dance with Him.

So be happy as single and Lets we dance Shake it Off and Happy – Pharell song

I’ll sent my prayers on you!

 

Anastasia Ajeng

 

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Single but in relationship with Jesus

Okay, postingan ini saya mau nulis pake bahasa indonesia saja, karena draftnya masih ada di dalam kepala, ga yakin banget kalo nulisnya pakai bahasa inggris 😀

I’m single but I’m totally relationship with Jesus

Setelah begitu banyak drama dalam kehidupan cinta saya (ciee cinta :p – uhuk) Saya belajar satu hal yang selalu gagal bagi saya, yaitu menganggap bahwa kebahagiaan sejati itu pada punya pacar atau pada manusia.

Salah?

Banget!

Kok bisa?

Saya selalu teringat dengan quote ini Nobody can satisfy you, except the One who created you. Ngga akan ada orang yang bisa memuaskan kita kecuali yang menciptakan kita, siapa lagi kalau bukan Tuhan?

Ketika saya menaruh semua cinta saya, passion saya kepada manusia, akan selalu ada hal-hal yang saya merasa kurang dan akhirnya menjadikan saya hopeless. Hal ini berbeda jika kita menaruh semua cinta kita – memusatkan diri kita kepada Jesus.

Lhaa tapi dia kan ga keliatan, ga bisa di sentuh, mana tau dia romantis ato ga?

Really? You think that He is not romantic? Oh Ladies, the best – the greater real love story that exist is about He died on crucified for us.

Coba tanya pacar ato manusia, mau ngga mati disalib disiksa atas bukan salahnya tanpa nggerutu – ya kali kalo ada yang mau? Tapi Yesus? Dia ngga menggerutu, kalau galau sempat, ketika berdoa di taman getsemani, tapi itu menunjukan bahwa dia Putra Manusia.

Kata siapa dia ngga romantis? Dia sangat romantis, ganteng (IYALAH) dan Dia selalu ada,selalu dengerin kita, mungkin pacar ato manusia bisa aja dengerin berpura-pura supaya kita senang. Tapi Jesus ngga pernah begitu, Dia mendengarkan dengan setia – iya Setia.

Dia ngga keliatan? iya kalo kamu melihatnya dengan mata jasmani, lihatlah Dia di dalam mata iman,dan Dia bisa disentuh dengan banyak cara.

yang paling penting – CintaNya dia ga pernah habis, ga ada ceritanya Dia ngga mengampuni. Pacar mungkin mengampuni, tapi kamu yakin dia ngga jaga jarak? kamu yakin dia one day ngga ngungkit-ngungkit? Tapi Jesus berbeda, dia mengajak kita untuk

Sayangku, pergilah ke kamar pengakuan, Aku mendengarkan segala keluh kesah dari dosa-dosamu, dan aku akan memberikan pengampunan serta kedamaian yang kau ingini

Setelah Dia mendengarkan segala dosa dosa kita, Dia akan membuangnya ke lautan yang paling dalam yang tidak akan pernah Dia buka atau ungkit-ungkit lagi.

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Tulisan ini tidak membuat kamu (baca single catholic ladies) untuk tidak punya pacar, No. Apapun pilihan hidupmu, ketika kamu ingin punya pacar, cobalah kamu belajar berelasi dengan Jesus sebagai pacar kamu.

Kalo kamu mangkel gara-gara pacar kamu susah dihubungi, di BBM cuman di Read aja, di telpon ngga diangkat kamu pasti mangkel dan grundel kan?

Hal ini akan berbeda kalo kamu mengatakan semuanya kepada Jesus, Dia selalu ada buat kamu.

Ini yang selalu saya latih sehari-hari, saat ini saya single dan saya berlatih untuk mencintai Jesus, mencintai Dia seutuhnya seperti rasa cinta yang selalu saya berikan kepada pacar.

Tapi tetap kamu berdoa untuk calon suami/pacar kamu. Saya yakin dan sangat yakin, ketika segala sesuatunya sudah tepat, Dia akan memberikan kamu pasangan yang kamu inginkan, bahkan lebih dari yang kamu bayangkan, karena Dia ingin kamu bahagia. Dia ingin melihat hidup kamu menjadi lebih suci dengan seseorang yang sudah dipersiapkan oleh Dia untuk kamu, supaya kamu tetap bisa memuliakan namaNya bersamaMu.

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Lalu bagaimana bisa punya relationship dengan Jesus?

Kalau jawaban dari saya, gampang banget. Sertakan Dia di dalam hidupmu, sering-seringlah curhat, bahkan guyon ke Jesus, Dia adalah master guyon ( I really believe this)

Datanglah dalam Ekaristi, lebih bagus setiap hari – kan kamu kalo pacaran maunya ketemuan terus toh? So did it when you with Jesus

Saya melatih untuk berbicara dengan Jesus setiap hari, setiap kali. Saya yakin Dia mendengar cerita konyol saya, cerita cerita sedih, cerita apa yang saya lalui pada hari itu. Setelah bercerita saya merasakan ketenangan yang saya inginkan.

Mungkin kalian masih ngga percaya, tapi banyak bukti perempuan yang mendedikasikan dirinya untuk menjalin hubungan dengan Jesus. Salah satunya adalah Jackie Francois, kamu bisa liat tulisan atau webnya disini (spoiler alert : SUAMINYA GANTENGGGGGGGG BANGEETTTTTT)

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Ketika teman / pacar kamu meninggalkan kamu, kamu sangat kecewa?

Look upon cross, see HIM, tell everything to Him, He loves you.

To all single catholic ladies who read this, my prayers are for you all. Happy being relationship with Jesus.

Glory be to the Father,and to the Son,and to the Holy Spirit as it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be world without end. Amen. 

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Saved by His grace

last week on Sunday, as catholic we celebrate the feast Christ The King and I was on duty being a lector or reading the bible on mass.

I usually read the bible before going mass especially when I’m on duty so I’m not only to read them to people, but I really make them understand what the message form God.

And while I read on the first reading (EZ 34:11-12) I remember something because this quote :

Thus says the Lord GOD:
I myself will look after and tend my sheep.
As a shepherd tends his flock
when he finds himself among his scattered sheep,
so will I tend my sheep.
I will rescue them from every place where they were scattered
when it was cloudy and dark.
I myself will pasture my sheep;
I myself will give them rest, says the Lord GOD.
The lost I will seek out,
the strayed I will bring back,
the injured I will bind up,
the sick I will heal,
but the sleek and the strong I will destroy,
shepherding them rightly.

Whoa, that quote burn in my heart, that’s why I choose first reading.

It makes me remember I was saved by His grace everytime. I still a sinner, especially on a few times ago , a truly sinner.

but God loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssssssssssssssss me soooo deep, He save me (even I still feel He always saved me every time) Only by His grace I was feel happy and blessed like right now.

Yes, He is the king of the king, I was ashamed by my sin, but I was happy that sin make me knows the truth about Him, that He always be with me (and also be with you) if only we surrender all we have.

so Thanks God, for always save me, Thanks for your grace and Your Mercy.

 

From Your Daughter who lovessss You soooo much,

 

Anastasia Ajeng

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Marriage part 2

Hey Everyone 😀 [give all high FIVE]

I wish every of you is good like me, Amen.

Today I will talk about marriage, yes I was told you about the marriage on here but seems like when I wrote that, I still on high tension of emotion. Sorry, because I was so stressfull about it.

Right now I feel great to talk about it. so here We go

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I always wanted to be marry someday,wearing white – seeing my husband with black tuxedo crying look at us because after all we had, finally we make it.

When I was kids, I know my vocational life will be to be marry. So I have so many things what I dream of and to do on my wedding.

After I know how relationship with my boyfriend was, after any pains – joy that I had into it, I realized that marriage its more harder, more difficult more complicated than on relationship.

But until right now, I still believe about marriage institution. Right now I really more find the meaning of marriage. Its not about the weddings, its not about I love you and you love me, its not about how sex or intimacy we want to make, Its not about how will financial going, its not about kids. Marriage its really super complicated.

After all that I learned (and still learn until right now) I know how the truly meaning of marriage.

Marriage its about how God as center on our life, how we are as spouse/family leading together closer to Christ because no body can make you satisfy (which is satisfy is about happiness) except The One that created you.

Marriage its about sacrifice,sacrifice and sacrifice – Its all about giving.

If you still think marriage need take and give, you will always upset. ALWAYS.

Maybe you don’t believe it, but that’s it – we can look St Joseph and Mother Mary – Th Holy Family from Nazareth.

Have you ever think if St Joseph can refuse to marry Mother Mary which is She was pregnant not from him?

Have you ever think, Mother Mary even can refuse to be pregnant if she wants.

But THEY NOT, They sacrifice their self  and they even really love their kids – Jesus.

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When you put your happiness to people, you will always upset,mad and bad. So maybe you will asking me, so why we should marry if there is no happiness on it?

oh that’s wrong. With marriage we will more closer to the Christ and we will happy – If you really  really realized about it.

Just like example, I never put God as on my center relationship with my boyfriends before, so I always think the happiness its about I have boyfriend.

But right now, I’m on relationship with man. I love him, really love him but this time was different, We put God as center of this relationship. We pray together, support each other and still keep try to far away from sins. So what I feel?

really different. I’m happy really happy – so I imagine if I was marriage, I will be more happy than this.

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But I don’t want to be marriage its justification from avoid sins, because the ages, or anything. I still believe that Marriage was vocational life and its really-really sacred.

That’s why marriage need preparation, and I still learn about it, as long as I can to learn because right now I don’t want to wasting time get relationship if the purpose its not building family – leading to Christ together.

Well, I wish every reader who read this article really-really know about the meaning of marriage and I will pray for you.

God bless you all……..

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The Sexiest Man

Hay EVERYONE!!

I was happy because this topic I got after surfing internet today beside today is Father Day – so Happy Father day for every Father in the world, even Father to be – You awesome Man!

Because for me being Father is really coolest, the sexiest thing too and I believe every man going to be Father despite He choose to be marriage or not. You always being Father who protect a woman and anyone else.

So *let me cough a while* so this topic today is about the sexiest Man – I mean the sexiest Man on my verse because everyone have the meaning sexiest Man. Indeed?

OKAY, “the sexiest” sometimes we always meaning about physically, like a Man who have body on 6 packs, a great shoulder, a sexy beard (Oh God – Lord bless Him :p ) and a crunchy voice maybe?

huh – but I was put that meaning when I was teenager, like I remember how I really adore VJ Utt (The famous VJ when I kids – you will know if you watch MTV)

But now I’m 23 years old, a half way to be woman instead still youth. I have a lots of meanings about the sexiest Man and I have meet them too. So here we go the top – list meaning of sexiest man from me

1. Sexiest Man always PRAY. – There’s no more sexy thing I think another see A man kneel and pray – sit in front of chair on Church and watching (I think He talking on his heart with Jesus) tarbenacle and not hurry to go out after mass but let him self praying again to Mary. Its really sexy and cool.

and it will be more sexiness if praying rosary, REAL MAN PRAY ROSARY!

the reason of this : A man who puts everything on God know how to fix everything, know how being fully a man and you (if you woman) never worry, he know how to respect you.

2. Sexiest Man love his Mother but not being Mama Boy. He will loves his mother, respect his Mother but not being Mama Boy.

the reason of this : A man who loves his mother, will knowing how to act and also love you.

3. Sexiest Man work or college with seriously, It not means there’s no fun on them or they will geeky or selfish. No at all, not every geeky man are not fun, maybe you just dont know how to deal with them. Every human is fun. Believe that!

the reason of this : Man should work harder or study seriously, because he will be forever worker and have high responsibility in the future.

4. Sexiest Man look your soul not your body. Every human always seeing person with the body first, but be careful if the first Him see is your boobs, your ‘cookie’ or your another asset things. Even we try to modesty in front of men, but some of them are jerks too, so be carefully to understand the truly sexiest Man.

the reason of this : If Man loves you or interest with you because your body it never stay longer. Believe me, because our body will change until we died. We cant change the fact that so many man like that, but we can pray for them, hope their Holy Spirit guides him to be the real man.

5. Sexiest Man said I love you first and going to be altar with you another Sexiest man going to be priest too. 

the reason of this : because He know their purpose life about, to totally sacrifice with their neighbor or their loved ones. Maybe I’m kinda old fashion, even sometimes I said ” I-Love-You” things first but right now I choose to man to said it first. That’s the rule. We don’t need kneel on him, but He should kneel and asking the beautiful question (that I still waiting until now) .

So, I wish that my top list helping you to find the truth about sexiest Man. Not always about physically but I rather choose His act especially on woman.

But If you asking to me, Who is the sexiest Man on my life?

So with simply and proud I answer is JESUS CHRIST

and I still waiting the second sexiest man on my life.

Have a blessed sexiest Wednesday!

 

 

 

 

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Understand

There are so many things on my life I did not understand why that happened on me if I flash back again.

If I could choose to be back, I will learn to not fall into sin, I will not choose that way or this way either.

But that’s not life works, or God plans work.

Before I saved by Him, I was so hard to think why bad things always happened on me, beside great things happen.

But, right now – after He saved me over and over again. I realized God loves me. He really loves me, I know that bad things not from Him – but I was choose that bad things.

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I know that God close with anyone even that people was runaway from Him. Sometimes If-If I’m like God – I will hurt because I saw so many people hurt me, hurt me everyday.

But I’m not God either, God have mercy and I believe about that. If everyone can define us by our mistake that we had before,our sins that we had before, our treasure that we had – but God never define us like that.

We still precious child on Him eyes. We still.

Even we had doing bad things

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It’s so hard to understand anything, but God help us with Holy Spirit to help and guide us. So if you are right now going on difficult situation, or struggling something, ask that Holy Spirit to help you understand what God wants for you. Don’t choose randomly.

and God love you even you are great sinner or biggest sinner on the earth, as long as you ask His mercy with humble heart.

Malang, on rainy day – November 10th 2014

 

Ana

 

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